about your best friend
Well, I’ve got three.
One is my sister, one I’ve known for going on eleven years, and one is also my roommate.
My sister and I were relatively close growing up; though my perception of closeness is slightly skewed because every member of my immediate family (that being my father, mother, sister and I) are very reclusive people. We all very much enjoy/need frequent isolation, so dinner time was pretty much the only time we spent together on a daily basis. Up until I was about twelve, dinner with the family was a regular thing, but after that age, it became a very rare happening. Much effort had to be made to spend time as a family unit together, and after a couple solid weeks of bringing that back into practice, the ritual was again forgotten. My sister was active with her extra-curricular activities; that being dressage and volleyball; I was dancing on average five hours a night five days a week; my father owned his own company in the oil field, and my mother was mostly our driver, but also kept a part-time job. So from this you can see how we were all in different directions at the same time, and when we were in the same place, we all needed our personal time alone to decompress our busy days. There were times though, where my sister and I would briefly talk about our personal lives, or spend time eating junk food and watching television. This was our quality time together. And though it doesn’t appear to be of substantial quality for developing closeness, it was to us. Our family functioned like this ( and still mostly does) up until this past may when I moved to Montreal. Since I’ve returned, I’ve been much closer to them, but still living on my own. Every tuesday we meet up for dinner and chat about our lives, though my sister is usually absent from this. But her and I are more or less the same person. We share the same style, and humor, and are of equal intellect, which is perhaps why we don’t necessarily need to be together frequently to feel very close. In fact, I would say I know very little of her, but she is my BEST friend, and I love her very, very much. I trust her with my life.
My other best friend and I met when I was nine and she was eleven. She had just moved here from the Isle of Wight and we were in the same jazz class. She offered me a polo mint, and of course then we became friends. However, I then got moved to a more advanced class and never saw her after that. Then about six years later we found ourselves in the same hip-hop class. At this point we had completely forgotten that we’d been friends in the past, but established a friendship nonetheless. It took us about a year or two after being reacquainted to realize, that we had known each other when we were small, as I had been quite heavy-set as a child and she had had very long hair, which when cut, drastically changed her appearance. Since then her and I have been very close, though we often drift in and out of each other’s lives depending on the happenings and stress within our own.
My roommate and I met in grade 10 and have been very close since introduction. We became fast friends as we were both enrolled in the I.B. programme, which meant our schedules were exactly the same (save for our electives). I did however leave to another school for my grades 11 and 12, but we still maintained a very strong relationship. I would even argue that we became much better friends after I transfered schools. Her family is a second family to me. I attend their birthday dinners, and they hold one for me, most holidays I celebrate with them, as well as my biological family. I refer to her parents as mom and dad, and I’ve gone on “family” vacations with them. Her and I now live together, which has been working out well. She is very different than I. I might even go so far as to say we are polar opposites personality-wise. We do have a lot of commonalities though when it comes to personal philosophy and opinion. She is the only person I am willing to share a lot of personal details about myself to. I am very much a secretive person, but she’s very good at making me feel comfortable about sharing things at my own leisure.
So those are my best friends…
